This book review of You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero gives you the details of this easy-to-read and apply self-help book. And because this is a book pairings blog “where books meet lifestyle,” I have also provided tips from the book and some recommended pairings for further learning.
Book Review: You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero
The #1 New York Times bestselling book You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero seems to have been Instagrammed by every blogger and entrepreneur in the world for the past few years. Jen Sincero writes in a way that is easy to follow, direct, relatable and sometimes even funny.
At one point, she says she had done all there was to do as a consumer in the self-help space (workshops, etc.), and it shows in her book. Her methods for self-help are like a pep talk of a combination of theories all rolled into one — sort of a “best of” self-help. And her one-liner theories can be used to totally overhaul your life, to make minor tweaks or to simply be happier and not live in what she calls, “the big snooze.”
Here’s a few noteworthy tips from the book and my take on them:
Tap into what you love to do instead of what you think you need to do to survive. Don’t settle for mediocrity because you don’t believe anything else is available or appropriate.
As adults, we are so plagued by bills and responsibilities. For those reasons, we stay where we are (unhappy jobs, relationships, etc.) because we think we can’t survive any other way. To start moving away from these limitations, we should start the scary journey by tuning in to what we actually love. This is a tough one, as most of us can’t just walk away from obligations, but I try to think of her point as just a first step of really thinking about who you are and what you want, then slowly making plans towards that goal.
Tap into what beliefs limit your subconscious mind.
This is an important theory for Sincero. She argues that we devise subconscious beliefs about life as children that shape us as adults and limit our lives. For example, if our parents were poor and broke and constantly complained about money and the lack thereof, we may have inherited a subconscious belief that money is not readily available or accessible to us.
If there’s something you want to do, start right now. You’ll never be this young again. “If you’re serious about changing your life, you’ll find a way. If you’re not, you’ll find an excuse.”
I love the statement, “you’ll never be this young again.” It’s so simple in its truth. Often, we tell ourselves as adults that we are “too old” to start something new. But, the simple truth is that right now is the youngest we will ever be again.
Mindset equals success. And the key to success is being tenacious.
I had to jot this one down, as I strongly believe in mindset and tenacity. Nothing truly great comes without hard, gritty work. But no matter how hard people work, if they still think of themselves as someone who will never succeed, well, their mindset may become them. I love to remind my husband how angry we would be as sports fans if our star quarterback was interviewed before the Superbowl and was heading into the big game with a negative attitude.
Connect with your inner kid. Give freely and without expectation. Treat the people you love like it’s the last time you’ll ever see them again.
Ahh, our youths. We remember the carefree days and hopeful beliefs of that time in our lives, don’t we? It can be a beautiful thing to live in the moment. And giving freely is also a beautiful thing, one of the most beautiful things, isn’t it? These theories of Sincero’s seem to be aimed at achieving a general sense of happiness, which can manifest itself positively into other aspects of our lives.
Our habits are who we are.
In other words, “you are what you do.” I found this to be an a-ha moment. Thinking about our repeated choices as habits, and our habits as ourselves, can be eye-opening and force us to take a deeper look inside ourselves. Are we okay with defining our entire being by the habits we have now? Saying, “I don’t work out” is not as hard for my ears to hear as “I am a physically lazy person.” This is one theory I will remember and continue to think about.
Forgiveness is about feeling good, not feeling right. And resentment is like taking poison and waiting for your enemies to die.
When you forgive someone, wipe the slate clean. This theory also seems to be aimed at achieving a general sense of happiness. Anger and resentment steal our energy — the energy we need to accomplish positive things in our lives. Force yourself to be like “Frozen” and “let it go.”
Be grateful. Have unwavering faith and unwavering gratitude in that which you desire. Come from a place of abundance, not lack. Be grateful that you can manifest anything you desire and then go get it.
Oprah would agree. I can’t count the times I have heard her preach the importance of gratitude and, if Oprah says it, I believe it. Did you ever hear the saying, “When you are grateful for what you have, you will always have enough?” I find that, when I am grateful, I feel full. Gratitude gives us perspective and a great headspace in which we can accomplish even more.
Be prepared for the naysayers. Find a new tribe that does have the same mindset as you. Then, get help from them.
When you do something new, brave or outside the box, you may not be greeted with the most overwhelming support. Sincero reminds us what it must have been like to be the Wright brothers telling others they were going to invent these car things with wings that fly in the air. If the naysayers in your life are getting you down, find others that do have your mindset and surround yourself with them.
“So often, we pretend we’ve made a decision when what we’ve really done is signed up to try until it gets too uncomfortable.” If you bite off more than you can chew, chances are you’ll get discouraged and give up.
This was a big one for me. I think it’s true. Once we take a big leap, we are riding on a high and full of energy and positivity … until things get tough. And sometimes we leap so much, we become overwhelmed. Both can lead to unnecessary failure. I think this is where tenacity and like-minded tribes come into play.
Write down and repeat your affirmations. Write your manifesto in the present tense. Live, eat, sleep and breathe your vision.
I love this idea. There’s something about putting pen to paper that helps you actually feel your vision. And when you truly feel and believe your vision, you can manifest it. It’s the law of attraction. (Any fans of “The Secret” out there?) Vision boards are also great, but I think there is a special power of having an actual manifesto of one’s vision for his life. Pinterest is a good way to accomplish this. There’s just something about having things in a tangible form that makes them more real.
You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero is a peppy little cheerleader of a book jam-packed with little goodies like this to remember and to implement in your life. That being said, it’s worth noting that sometimes we are bound by difficult fates and circumstances — that’s life. But, I think Sincero’s principles and pick-me-ups can still co-exist in a very unpredictable world.
This is the type of self-help book that’s so simple and all-inclusive that you can keep going back to it. Remember, “If you want to live a life you’ve never lived, you have to do the things you’ve never done.” And you can start by reading this book.
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For more like You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero:
- Check out my list of best books for graduates — whether you are a recent graduate or not, this post is chock full of inspirational, yet thoughtful and realistic, self-help books.
And commit yourself now (not later or sometime) to doing one or more of the following:
- Create a vision board on Pinterest.
- Write your personal manifesto.
- Figure out what is limiting your subconscious (the Enneagram test may help you with this).
- Forgive someone.
- Write down three things for which you are grateful.
- Do something child-like and free-spirited.
- Give something freely.
- Say something positive about yourself.
I hope this book review of You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero inspires you to pick up this self-help book and reach your goals!
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